Report Cards & Learning to Love Your Child After You’ve Read It
The hardest thing you ever have to hear about your child is that they are less than satisfactory. As a parent you can’t help but see your child as perfect in almost every way. That’s how it should be right? Therefore, the idea that someone else might not see them in this way is simply “earth shattering”. That’s what happens to you, though, the first time you read your child’s report card. The picture perfect mirror reflecting your child’s “the best they can be” aura is suddenly cracked and replaced with a lot of “could have done betters.” Ugh!
It’s one of my greatest sadness’s as a parent that I have been made to see my children through their teacher’s eyes.
Okay, no one report comes without the positives too. However, having to hear that my son is helpful and enthusiastic at all times is just as frustrating. Clearly his teacher is not faced with the same barrage of insults I receive whenever I ask him to tidy his room!
So fellow parents out there, here’s a checklist of possible insults insights into your child that you may have read on a recent or past school report. Please tick accordingly! (NB one or more may apply)
- lacks focus / has frequent lapses in concentration
- immature for age (that gets a double tick if your child was 5 and under when they received it)
- lacking in confidence
- overly confident
- talks too much in class
- needs to talk more during class discussions
- below average in…
- has failed to grasp the basic concepts
- has struggled with…
- generally tries hard
- poor effort
- is still struggling with..
- lacks key ball skills
- poor penmanship
- is excellent at colouring between the lines
And on the list goes. One of my all time favourites has to be “when she truly understands what it going on, then she really applies herself and does some excellent work.” No really? Can I remind you, teacher, exactly why she is at school in the first place.
I understand the restrictions a teacher faces in having to summarise (often) a year’s work in one or two paragraphs but still reading it is always going to be an equally hard challenge for the parent.
So go on teachers, the next time you are cutting and pasting catch phrases on to a child’s report have pity for the poor parent who still believes their child to be that very special person with the world at their feet. When it’s a choice between “tries really hard” or “could do better”, go on have a heart and pick the former.
Tuesdays With Dorie: Mint Chocolate Brr-ownies
If competitive present buying and health & safety hadn’t taken over where common sense left off, you might be making these gorgeous brr-ownies for your child’s teacher as an end of school gift. Instead they would be great served in small squares as an after dinner treat with coffee. Very gooey so I recommend lining your tin with foil instead of baking parchment. Also as we don’t have peppermint patties over here in England, I used Morrison’s after dinner peppermint creams (and no they’re not paying me to say that!). They are slightly thicker than after eights.